mardi, décembre 06, 2011
Hot bod, agile mind, kind heart: what's not to like?
One thing - he is an expatriate from the North living in the land of the Tarheels -- and I am here.
Somehow he stumbled on to my profile. I don't know how. Because of my household responsibilities, I am rigid about not looking beyond a certain circumference.
He gave my dating c.v. the virtual dating good housekeeping seal of approval.
When I read his profile, a few things stood out. He's a darned good writer (like me, he's a "creative"). He's whimsical and doesn't mind going off on tangents. He's literate and smart.
And oh -- did I mention -- he is better looking than someone with those other natural gifts has any right to be.
I have a thing for tallish slender guys with glasses and laugh lines around their eyes. They make me a little crazy.
I decided to shoot him an email. Almost immediately, we were deep into (virtual) conversation about pretty much anything that comes to mind.
And we really haven't stopped.
Both of us lead very busy lives. He's got kids, a demanding professional world, and an active social calendar.
And if you are reading my blog regularly, you know about my world.
He likes to make me blush. I like to tease him back.
A few weeks ago, after asking me whether I wanted to receive it, he sent me a photo.
Let's say that it left a lot to the imagination. And neither of us are slackers in that regard (imagination-wise).
He looks amazing -- someone who works hard to keep his body in shape. Boy, does it show.
I didn't respond in kind. Like I really needed to say that?
Yet both of us are camera hogs, and there are probably pictures of us in some FBI file in D.C.
I just hope they have the flattering ones.
We both enjoy our conversations. It's darned tough to be witty online, particularly when you have a pro on either end of the dialogue.
But he makes me laugh. I seem to have the same effect on him.
I'm not his usual demographic, he told me. A bit younger, he tends to attract women like bees to flowers. Now and then we share stories.
We're both complicated people, with ghosts and shadows. We dance around those, but also acknowledge them.
And while sometimes we give in, we avoid, as he said to me yesterday, the predictable and degrading course this kind of friendship could take.
Honestly, I think we like each other too much to fall easily.
Will we ever meet? I don't know. We are far away from each other. He's seeking true love closer to home. Neither of us is wealthy enough to fund frequent flights.
As for me, I'm not sure what I'm seeking, but in that we may be more alike that I am willing to admit right now.
I'd like to meet up. I think about it -- as I said, both of us have a surfeit of imagination.
Right now, I'm willing to wait and see what happens.
And be thankful that I sent that email.
There's blood in Marian, Madame Librarian yet. And he sometimes gets it leaping.