lundi, décembre 10, 2007

The illusions of grief

When I called my dad's home (I still cannot speak of the house as his "former home") today, I got the answering machine. I've been able to leave messages for my sister before when dad was ill-this time, however, I lost it. How cruel it is to hear that distinctive voice, and yet know that in this life we will never hear it again.

The kid's dad told me that when he lost his father, he kept looking for him on the street in the eyes of strangers.

I can't stand the idea of deleting the tape-although I know that time will come.

Those of you who haven't lost a parent or a sibling-make sure you have recordings or other ways in which you can remember a mother's silvery laugh, a father's flat Michigan "a's"...or his horrible puns. Those twists of personality that used to irritate you so much? You would give practically anything to have them, and the person who made was so much richer and strange, back.

Choking back the sobs, I called my sister again-on her cell phone.

Full fathom five, thy father lies...

1 commentaire:

Gail a dit…


I'm so sorry for your loss, and to read of these moments of grief. They are heart-wrenching, as grief is. I'm sorry that I haven't written sooner; I have a card for you which I have carried around from city to city, but have not yet written and mailed.
I've had a far too distracted Fall.

May you find rest in His comfort.