tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.comments2023-07-11T04:00:56.031-04:00Irreverent: Musings on Faith, Love, Life and PoliticsWallacewriterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comBlogger646125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-90900268385642777612014-02-24T17:33:33.935-05:002014-02-24T17:33:33.935-05:00http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/polyamor...http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/polyamorous-dating-explained?src=spr_FBPAGE&spr_id=1441_45100284allen_howellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02883508937724558579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-70622042721073147282013-11-09T23:24:58.447-05:002013-11-09T23:24:58.447-05:00The article seems to say that yes, Christians are ...The article seems to say that yes, Christians are being persecuted, but not necessarily for their faith, not necessarily being singled out over against other faith traditions. Yet, I wonder about that? Christians and Jews who have lived in places like Iraq for centuries are definitely persecuted and their numbers are diminishing radically-seems they are being forced out by Muslims there. <br /><br />Then, there was that recent demonstration in Iran with the theme, "Death to America," and a few days later Iranian diplomats negotiating with the U.S. and the West re nuclear energy and sanctions. Can the Iranians be trusted when they promote such hatred towards the West? Eclecticityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01515852321697380521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-11041188945019057432013-09-26T17:48:46.041-04:002013-09-26T17:48:46.041-04:00Amen.Amen.Martha Sponghttp://marthaspong.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-88934433217709095102011-08-20T15:23:02.931-04:002011-08-20T15:23:02.931-04:00Long live the LBD - or skirt/blouse equivalent. Le...Long live the LBD - or skirt/blouse equivalent. Let's hear it for Coco Chanel! <br /><br />:-)BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-5749214262623989172011-08-19T14:28:24.037-04:002011-08-19T14:28:24.037-04:00Those 'what ifs' are certainly powerful, I...Those 'what ifs' are certainly powerful, I know. I'm not sure they ever fully leave us, and I don't necessarily consider that a problem. Lovely writing, by the way. On so many levels.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-88594899736285263332011-08-19T13:34:18.038-04:002011-08-19T13:34:18.038-04:00I don't know...it could be. One thing about re...I don't know...it could be. One thing about relationships is that they are never predictable!Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-23946967338729804032011-08-19T13:06:39.638-04:002011-08-19T13:06:39.638-04:00Those what ifs, those second chances, those images...Those what ifs, those second chances, those images of other selves... all important to re-framing who we are now, I think.<br /><br />And maybe preparing for a different future?BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-19855282718395495902011-08-18T12:18:18.431-04:002011-08-18T12:18:18.431-04:00We all know there's sex for the sake of sex. F...We all know there's sex for the sake of sex. For men and women, both.<br /><br />And then there's the connection, the intimacy, the delight, the richness of the experience - when your heart and mind are engaged as well as your loins.<br /><br />Those men interested in that sort of connection?<br /><br />They'll wait. And the wait is usually worth it, I've found.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.com/2011/08/11/life-alone-or-life-coupled/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-88078488198601156912011-08-16T10:24:38.331-04:002011-08-16T10:24:38.331-04:00This comment is from my online friend, BLW, not me...This comment is from my online friend, BLW, not me! I deleted hers by mistake. She is always thought-provoking.<br /><br />Maybe you do more than you realize. Maybe our activism (for social change) is in our example as well as our words and insistence on commenting on the world around us.<br /><br />Regardless of faith or doctrine.Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-61490833801817107772011-08-10T15:06:08.014-04:002011-08-10T15:06:08.014-04:00One step at a time, right?
And those voices in yo...One step at a time, right?<br /><br />And those voices in your head - born of conditioning or past experience - try to let them go. Easier said than done, I know. How hard it is at times for us to get out of our own way.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-52298815741121763542011-08-02T15:22:48.039-04:002011-08-02T15:22:48.039-04:00Aww, you made me blush.Aww, you made me blush.eightkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10761168733598473581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-80385674804889326762011-08-02T13:11:59.205-04:002011-08-02T13:11:59.205-04:00Despite an affinity for Twitter (I love Twitter!),...Despite an affinity for Twitter (I love Twitter!), I don't participate widely in FB. I <i>do</i> participate, but not in the ways that most individuals do.<br /><br />Not tons of "friends," not much info, and I agree, re the ex factor.<br /><br />That said, as a way to share links and read others, I do like it. But I wasn't much of a joiner in high school, and I guess I'm still not. Perhaps Twitter is the place for those of us who enjoy our connections, but somewhat different in orientation?<br /><br />What a strange world...BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-40332485489629404362011-07-29T22:16:57.982-04:002011-07-29T22:16:57.982-04:00Thanks for sharing this, Elizabeth. Changing famil...Thanks for sharing this, Elizabeth. Changing familiar patterns is hard, but I applaud your desire to work on it. Further than many people get in their lifetimes. <br /><br />It smarts a little bit to read as I was not your model daughter in these sames years. I didn't really get a good chance to redeem it before my mother died, but you can be sure I have a whole different perspective on her, and life, today.<br /><br />Not telling you anything you don't already know. <br /><br />Be brave!<br />gailGailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06169660914528351698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-54430594176723237912011-07-28T19:45:28.040-04:002011-07-28T19:45:28.040-04:00I'm there... it's a different tune, same d...I'm there... it's a different tune, same dilemma. Love your analogy to Broadway veterans running through the same script.<br /><br />And yes, when we manage to bite our tongues and not react - with teenagers anyway - it seems to work a little better.<br /><br />But God knows, as a single/solo parent, it wears on you. And wears on you. And wears on you...BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-51112864931673789672011-07-22T23:08:29.200-04:002011-07-22T23:08:29.200-04:00Wise advice.
But this really is re-entry. For qu...Wise advice. <br /><br />But this really is re-entry. For quite a while, I didn't care. I needed to recover a sense of self-esteem -- but the trust, that takes a lot longer to return.Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-88124053296534314792011-07-22T20:27:27.056-04:002011-07-22T20:27:27.056-04:00You know - sometimes you need to take a break from...You know - sometimes you need to take a break from it. When it all starts to run together and feel mechanical, the "yes" and enthusiasm that you want to bring to the task of meet-and-greet is just too much.<br /><br />Too much time. Too much expenditure. Too much, with everything else there is to juggle.<br /><br />It's not only time, it's timing.<br /><br />(Peek at my past few posts - and the one called romance racetrack as well. I'm with you... the investment of time is huge and draining. And timing is also critical.)<br /><br />Hugs.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-75296828419443618642011-07-20T18:28:16.463-04:002011-07-20T18:28:16.463-04:00Do you mean having kids or not having had them is ...Do you mean having kids or not having had them is a show-stopper? You might really be right. I worry about that.<br /><br />And I keep finding reasons not to meet these guys -- too much other stuff going on.<br /><br />Thanks for the wisdom, BLW.Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-64271525861201215372011-07-20T17:49:44.454-04:002011-07-20T17:49:44.454-04:00Sounds like a busy calendar! (Not a bad thing, tho...Sounds like a busy calendar! (Not a bad thing, though tiring - yes.)<br /><br />I have dated the "never married man" of late 40s or even early 50s. It struck me as odd, odder than when a woman doesn't marry. It does happen that there can be circumstances in which it seems <i>less</i> odd.<br /><br />I had a long term relationship with a never married man in his 40s. I will say - it was quite good. <br /><br />The net - I believe relationships depend upon individuals, regardless of all the aspects of their public selves that we use to make initial assessments.<br /><br />That said - there is much common ground when both have been married - and even more so, when both have known what it is to love and raise children.<br /><br />That one, I've found to be far more of a show-stopper.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-91855084280451576792011-07-19T21:19:36.984-04:002011-07-19T21:19:36.984-04:00A man who can write? Irresistible asset.
Good luc...A man who can write? Irresistible asset.<br /><br />Good luck...<br /><br />:=)BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-39122922671007342052011-07-11T21:55:33.772-04:002011-07-11T21:55:33.772-04:00When you constantly crave affirmation, you are not...When you constantly crave affirmation, you are not treating the other person as an equal. It's termed co-dependency. Thank you for the comment anonymous!Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-52708787166391859822011-07-11T20:44:27.822-04:002011-07-11T20:44:27.822-04:00Marriage is a process and a journey you will be un...Marriage is a process and a journey you will be unhappy, unfulfilled and feel unappreciated during your marriage but it isn't all of your marriage. You also feel joy, love and happiness, riding out the bad is as much a part of a happy ending as feeling the joy. For me weathering the difficulties together makes me appreciate the good times. My spouse has given me a companion in life but I want them in my life I don't need them to be there to make me happy, there is a subtle difference. I have had to learn that when I depend on another to affirm me, I just spend my life chasing that affirmation, as it has come more internally I like it but I don't crave it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-2370243336260307002011-07-10T15:52:49.316-04:002011-07-10T15:52:49.316-04:00Good point, BLW -- that "happy ending" t...Good point, BLW -- that "happy ending" thang gets us in a lot of trouble, if we assume that as the goal. It keeps moving on one, doesn't it? But I'm not much of a romantic.Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-75843164467260127372011-07-10T15:36:08.149-04:002011-07-10T15:36:08.149-04:00I dislike the concept of the happy ending, which d...I dislike the <i>concept</i> of the happy ending, which doesn't preclude "happy" along with content, joyful, jubilant, wistful, comfortable, questioning, and every other human emotion as we progress through our days and nights. <br /><br />Some of us alone, and some, in tandem. <br /><br />I, too, like the quirky over the saccharine. I, too, have met more multiple-marriage-men than I could have imagined, in the online world. I, too, hold out hope - for surprises, and simply survival - which may ultimately bring me back to <i>flourishing</i> but differently. And I hope, not alone.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-87487512060202795212011-07-07T12:39:33.962-04:002011-07-07T12:39:33.962-04:00You KNEW I couldn't pass this one up... just o...You KNEW I couldn't pass this one up... <i>just one of the many reasons to grin when approaching the topic of French history?</i>BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-82027297088117599422011-07-03T11:50:09.684-04:002011-07-03T11:50:09.684-04:00This comment has been hidden from the blog.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.com