tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post5164079167162255128..comments2023-07-11T04:00:56.031-04:00Comments on Irreverent: Musings on Faith, Love, Life and Politics: Online dating, marriage, divorce and the "happy ending"Wallacewriterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-39122922671007342052011-07-11T21:55:33.772-04:002011-07-11T21:55:33.772-04:00When you constantly crave affirmation, you are not...When you constantly crave affirmation, you are not treating the other person as an equal. It's termed co-dependency. Thank you for the comment anonymous!Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-52708787166391859822011-07-11T20:44:27.822-04:002011-07-11T20:44:27.822-04:00Marriage is a process and a journey you will be un...Marriage is a process and a journey you will be unhappy, unfulfilled and feel unappreciated during your marriage but it isn't all of your marriage. You also feel joy, love and happiness, riding out the bad is as much a part of a happy ending as feeling the joy. For me weathering the difficulties together makes me appreciate the good times. My spouse has given me a companion in life but I want them in my life I don't need them to be there to make me happy, there is a subtle difference. I have had to learn that when I depend on another to affirm me, I just spend my life chasing that affirmation, as it has come more internally I like it but I don't crave it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-2370243336260307002011-07-10T15:52:49.316-04:002011-07-10T15:52:49.316-04:00Good point, BLW -- that "happy ending" t...Good point, BLW -- that "happy ending" thang gets us in a lot of trouble, if we assume that as the goal. It keeps moving on one, doesn't it? But I'm not much of a romantic.Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-75843164467260127372011-07-10T15:36:08.149-04:002011-07-10T15:36:08.149-04:00I dislike the concept of the happy ending, which d...I dislike the <i>concept</i> of the happy ending, which doesn't preclude "happy" along with content, joyful, jubilant, wistful, comfortable, questioning, and every other human emotion as we progress through our days and nights. <br /><br />Some of us alone, and some, in tandem. <br /><br />I, too, like the quirky over the saccharine. I, too, have met more multiple-marriage-men than I could have imagined, in the online world. I, too, hold out hope - for surprises, and simply survival - which may ultimately bring me back to <i>flourishing</i> but differently. And I hope, not alone.BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.com