tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post3527492796248859296..comments2023-07-11T04:00:56.031-04:00Comments on Irreverent: Musings on Faith, Love, Life and Politics: Heartbreak HouseWallacewriterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-90208088725809503082011-03-22T13:24:20.221-04:002011-03-22T13:24:20.221-04:00That is so beautiful, muchtoofarfromhome. Thank yo...That is so beautiful, muchtoofarfromhome. Thank you so much for sharing!Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-48043640854212999032011-03-22T13:20:02.567-04:002011-03-22T13:20:02.567-04:00I also see my (is it possible?) sixteen year old s...I also see my (is it possible?) sixteen year old son with a world full of angst attitude that belies his intelligence and inner innocence.<br /><br />All I keep hearing from others is to just keep loving him. And I do. It's tough sometimes, but I do. What digs under my skin is that as a divorced parent, I so need him to love me here and now. Continually. To come out of that angry teen shell and once in a while tell me that he loves me and to hang in there Dad.<br /><br />I think of the years that it naturally takes for all teenagers to come out from under that veneer of contempt for their parents (such as we all did to varying degrees), and I lament the wasted time spent with arguments, scorn and derision. It's a teen thing.<br /><br />When a few (or more) years have passed, I hear that it's a wonderful time of reconnection and renewal of love.<br /><br />But, it's those combative years leading up to reconciliation, punctuated by bad decisions, consequential implications and lifelong memories that weigh heavy on me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-54326501247828797852011-03-04T13:44:16.965-05:002011-03-04T13:44:16.965-05:00I count my blessings (as a mom) that I've had ...I count my blessings (as a mom) that I've had boys. They aren't angels, but I suspect that boys are easier on mothers than girls. <br /><br />The good news?<br /><br />By the time they hit 17, they like you again. Sometimes, even by 16.<br /><br />:)BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-32430851472300192011-03-04T12:35:40.245-05:002011-03-04T12:35:40.245-05:00Some fascinating grist for my counseling courses o...Some fascinating grist for my counseling courses on diversity, tolerance and exceptionality here. Moms of daughters, dads, sons, feel free to keep commenting! ;-)Wallacewriterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664895798688527246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-1217961181064236422011-03-04T11:27:14.923-05:002011-03-04T11:27:14.923-05:00Even those with academic high achiever daughters h...Even those with academic high achiever daughters have challenges – of a different order, perhaps, but no less real or overwhelming. <br /><br />And what mother of teenagers – boy or girl – doesn’t see her expectations, umm, edited? Knowing how intensely wonderful the protagonists of our daughters’ stories are, we want to push and pull the story into shape – edit out what we know to be extraneous or too sad or too risky – and make sure that the narrative is linear and hits all the benchmarks we’ve outlined in advance. Yeah, right. <br /><br />I really agree with Allyson on this one, just keep loving her, and at some point you’ll realize she recognizes that for the magnificent gift that it is.Sabrina Vourvouliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08260496687186444168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24675356.post-41860588457238387682011-03-03T16:24:22.639-05:002011-03-03T16:24:22.639-05:00Just keep loving her.Just keep loving her.Allysonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14255330493156396836noreply@blogger.com